She's been dating a wonderful new guy and, after 2 months, she'd like to begin introducing him to your circle.
When you arrive at the meeting place, you spin around to realize that your BFF's Prince Charming is actually your boss! As it turns out, he has some not so desirable quirks and isn't the most honest character; he's slimy even.
It is obvious that your BFF is smitten.
What do you do?
ROFL I love these scenarios - are they based off true life?! I'd let it run its course if she seems super smitten, unless she asks for your opinion and then you can share some of the less-thrilling background on him. Gotta keep your job though, so keep the reviews pretty PG!
ReplyDeleteLOL! Let it run it's course... a) some people can knowingly overlook such characteristics in favor of the things that make the person shine in their eyes; b) he's your boss, so it would be more awkward to get stuck in the middle of their situation. Dying to know if this actually happened!
ReplyDeleteI would stay quiet until she asks my opinion! but I would certainly call out that he is my boss at dinner! make it into a joke... after all--he could be a great guy-outside of the office!! some bosses get into that persona where they have to act a certain way at work!
ReplyDeleteLet her find out for herself, unless she confides in you that she is seeing some of these qualities. As others have said, he may just act that way in the office and may be a totally different guy outside!
ReplyDeleteDo not offer unsolicited opinions. You know your boss as a professional male, but he may be a better than acceptable mate. Lord only knows how my bosses wife has stayed with him all these years... Mind your own business and just be supportive. Says "me".
ReplyDeleteOh no! I would suddenly come down with a very bad headache and have to leave. I don't think I'd tell my girlfriend all the details about my boss yet because, since she's so smitten she may tell him. I'd just let her find out for herself. But I'd definitely avoid going out to dinner with them again.
ReplyDeleteDefinitly say nothing and let the chips fall where they may. Because he is your boss no need to get invovled and make work a more unbareable place then it already is. Besides whose to say he is not a nice guy when he isnt at work.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the advice so far. Keep it coming as this IS an actual scenario and I'm sure your fellow TBS Reader would appreciate the feedback!
ReplyDeleteIf it's your true BFF, she probably already knows about his bad behavior. Telling her that he's your boss would put 2 and 2 together for her--it's not your fault that he's been acting so "unsavory" all this time. There was no way to know that they were dating (I do wonder if HE knew that YOU were her best friend, though) if she didn't tell you all the details up front. After she's informed that he's your boss, I would let her make a decision on her own. If they continue dating she may be able to help him see the error of his ways. If it's already been going on for 2 months, chances are he won't be going anywhere that quickly, so you might need to hold your tongue from here on.
ReplyDeleteBest of luck!
Smile, and use the situation to your advantage. It's a chance to shine in front of your boss by rising above it all. It won't be FUN per se, but with any luck, this could be useful. As for your friend, only respond if asked...
ReplyDeleteKeep it moving. Say nothing...do nothing. Stay COMPLETELY out of it.
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